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Gave up on online dating

You may believe it’s better to have too many than too few choices, but that’s not the case when it comes to dating.

A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.

Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.

Still, you might want to pay attention to this story, of the woman who went on a few dates with a man she met on Match, only to end up getting stabbed multiple times by him when she tried to break it off. Alright, let’s say you’ve weathered the pitiful response rate, and you’ve slogged your way through the dredges of humanity. Maybe you’ll send a few messages back and forth, and you’ll realize you’ve met someone truly special.

You maintained your optimism, and lo and behold, you finally get matched up with someone who’s attractive intelligent. Or maybe – just maybe – the person you’re corresponding isn’t actually the person whose photos you’ve been daydreaming about.

And guys, if Mother Nature graced you with the splintered end of the eloquence stick, this man will be your online dating coach.

He will even pretend to be you throughout the entire communication process.

If you don’t want to click the link, here’s a quick summary of the report: “Use some goddamned common sense.” Okay, so you probably figure you’re neither dumb nor desperate enough to fall for scams like these. Woo hoo, score one victory for the online dater, right? Hailing down on their own parade, Match admitted that the background checks may do little good.

And hey, mad props to you for being such an exemplary case of human savvy. As a site representative put it, while “these checks may help in certain instances, they remain highly flawed, and it is critical that this effort does not provide a false sense of security to our members.” Thanks, Match. Or was this a subtle “fuck off” to all your dissatisfied daters? Just be wary of the human scum you may come across. The person you meet may not be the person you were corresponding with.

This time, a federal judge threw out the case, on the grounds that Match makes perfectly clear in their terms of service that they do not screen member profiles, nor will they take any responsibility for doing so.

In other words, even if the allegations that most of their profiles are inactive or fake, Match is not obligated in any way to remove them.

What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.